First of all, I salute every woman who has gone through this, and to those planning on becoming mums one day, all the best!

Wow! It’s taken me five months to finally pen down another post, but whatever! Lol. From my bold title and subtitle, I’m sure you have rightly guessed. So yeah, I recently became a MUM! Yaayyyy!!! While it’s been one he** of a ride, it’s also been the most beautiful experience ever. So in this post, I’m going to share some common (or not so common) things to expect as a new mum, and they are based on my PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. But before we dive in, a little recap about my pregnancy period…

-Yes, I put on some weight.
-No, I didn’t throw up all over (just a little bit in the first trimester), but lots of nausea.
-I totally avoided chicken and later on meat.
-Hotdog and I became closer friends
-I took full advantage of my second trimester by going on vacation with the boo.
-And lastly, towards the end was a great drag. Like the baby wouldn’t just drop sooner. But when she did (yea, it’s a girl), I couldn’t have been happier. She made me a mum!

A pregnant woman with no face

Now to the gist, what to expect when you are a new mum. Firstly, your entire life changes and is no longer yours alone. I mean, how can it be? You are now responsible for a little one – bathing, feeding, sleeping, poop aiding and lots more. You are now a teacher and a mentor. But these things are bound to happen (or not if you are lucky).

NO MORE SLEEP!!! If you are a sleeper like I am, just kiss it goodbye because you’ll stay up for and wake up at very odd hours. To feed, to change nappy, to play or to soothe. The most annoying part is, you look to the other side of the bed and see your husband sleeping soundly. However, the good news is that with time, you sort of get used to it and just see it as a normal thing.

BODY CHANGES. The way and manner your body changes is so shocking. In addition to the weight gain, some places I didn’t know could ache still ache to date. But there’s a reassurance that with the right eating habit and exercise (when you are ready), you can get back in shape and those aches and pains will ease up too.

HAPPY HOURS. Before having a baby, I’m pretty sure you would not be excited seeing poop or hearing a burp. But with a baby on board, those moments become happy hours. Don’t forget the moments the baby finally settles down to sleep (even if it’s just for a while), gosh! those are heavenly.

CANDID PHOTOGRAPHER. As a new mum, it’s baby in one hand and phone in another. You just have to capture those candid moments as they come and you have to be fast because they could be gone in a flash. So what do you become (if you aren’t one already), a photographer? Definitely yes!

BOOBS AND BABIES. If you are lucky to be an exclusive feeding mum like I am, then you should expect your milk factory and your baby’s feeding time to sync over time. It feels almost like clock-work. One minute, your boobs are at rest, the next minute, it’s full and then the baby starts demanding a meal. It’s one of the wonders of nature.

WORRIER. Some people call it maternal instincts. When you see a spot that wasn’t there the previous night, a rash, hair on the pillow, no poop for a day or a heavy reflux* (the list is endless), a new mum’s usual first instinct is to worry. Please feel free to do so, but do not make it get the best of you because in most cases, your baby is fine (even feeling better than you lol).

SMILES & LAUGHS. This is arguably the best part of it all. When that baby flashes a smile or laughs. It could be after a feed or during a diaper change. Capture those moments as best as you can and treasure them forever.

Above all these is the unconditional-I-will-do-anything-for-you kind of love you will feel for your baby/babies when they arrive.

Please comment and share this post if you enjoyed reading it. Someone out there will find it reassuring I’m sure of that.

Love always, Nonso!

*Reflux is when your baby brings up some of his milk. It’s also known as possetting or spitting up.


  • Ashley

    You summed up new motherhood perfectly! I was never a worrier until the day I became a mother. This was not something I had expected but now my oldest is 10 years old and I am a constant worrier. Your post is so great for all new moms! I wish I had it 10 years ago πŸ™‚

    • nonso

      Wow! Thanks for your awesome comment Ashley! I guess the worrying never truly goes away.πŸ˜…

  • Viano Dee

    Wow! Congrats on your newborn. I’ve heard tales of these changes. Motherhood can be both pain and amazing. Good thing you’re getting used to it. Welcome back, by the way.

    • nonso

      Thanks a lot for your comment Viano!

  • KOKO

    Very interesting and insightful article…..your writing skills is amazing…..Keep up the good work dear…

    • nonso

      Thank you so much for your comment Koko! I’m glad you loved reading it. πŸ’ƒπŸ»πŸ˜

  • judean

    Congratulations on becoming a new mum! I am not a mum but at my age have experienced body changes, sleepness nights, etc. πŸ™‚

    • nonso

      Thanks for your comment Judean. Body changes are real and can be so annoying for women😰

  • Autumn

    Such an amazingly sweet and honest post! I for one can attest that I have become a self-proclaimed photographer since the moment she was born so I chuckled at that part! Thank you for sharing!

    • nonso

      Thanks for your comment Autumn. It’s one of the best parts, capturing lots of moment. πŸ“Έ

  • Hannah

    This is great advice, especially to the first time moms. The part about worrying over everything is so true! Thank you for sharing!

    • nonso

      Hello Hannah, thanks for your comment!

  • Aryanne Padilha

    What a lovely post. No more sleep. Sigh. I’m not sure If I will have kids one day but If I do, I know the hardest part for me will be lack of sleep. I love sleeping and since I have to wake up earlier every day I go to bed super early to try to get my 8 hours. I can see that being a huge change in my life, not sure I’m ready for that hahaha. Congratulations on your baby!!

    • nonso

      Thanks for your comment Aryanne. I’m a big sleeper too but adjusting. I’m sure you would tooπŸ˜‰

  • Tomie

    This is definitely fun to read and experiential. Well done great mums, and cheers to future mums!!!

    • nonso

      Thank you very much, Tomie! I’m glad you had fun reading my post.

  • Christine Abdul-martins

    Wow learnt so much already a mum, but wish I was a candid photographer like you, would do that next time. Thanks for this information is enlightening.

    • nonso

      Hello Christine, thanks a lot for your comment. I’m glad you found the post enlightening.

  • No 1 fan

    This is great!
    It would help me alot in the next…..(only God knows when) years

    • nonso

      Amen to that! Thanks for enjoying the piece. Please browse through and enjoy the other posts πŸ™‚

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