First of all, I salute every woman who has gone through this, and to those planning on becoming mums one day, all the best!
Wow! It’s taken me five months to finally pen down another post, but whatever! Lol. From my bold title and subtitle, I’m sure you have rightly guessed. So yeah, I recently became a MUM! Yaayyyy!!! While it’s been one he** of a ride, it’s also been the most beautiful experience ever. So in this post, I’m going to share some common (or not so common) things to expect as a new mum, and they are based on my PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. But before we dive in, a little recap about my pregnancy period…
-Yes, I put on some weight.
-No, I didn’t throw up all over (just a little bit in the first trimester), but lots of nausea.
-I totally avoided chicken and later on meat.
-Hotdog and I became closer friends
-I took full advantage of my second trimester by going on vacation with the boo.
-And lastly, towards the end was a great drag. Like the baby wouldn’t just drop sooner. But when she did (yea, it’s a girl), I couldn’t have been happier. She made me a mum!
Now to the gist, what to expect when you are a new mum. Firstly, your entire life changes and is no longer yours alone. I mean, how can it be? You are now responsible for a little one – bathing, feeding, sleeping, poop aiding and lots more. You are now a teacher and a mentor. But these things are bound to happen (or not if you are lucky).
NO MORE SLEEP!!! If you are a sleeper like I am, just kiss it goodbye because you’ll stay up for and wake up at very odd hours. To feed, to change nappy, to play or to soothe. The most annoying part is, you look to the other side of the bed and see your husband sleeping soundly. However, the good news is that with time, you sort of get used to it and just see it as a normal thing.
BODY CHANGES. The way and manner your body changes is so shocking. In addition to the weight gain, some places I didn’t know could ache still ache to date. But there’s a reassurance that with the right eating habit and exercise (when you are ready), you can get back in shape and those aches and pains will ease up too.
HAPPY HOURS. Before having a baby, I’m pretty sure you would not be excited seeing poop or hearing a burp. But with a baby on board, those moments become happy hours. Don’t forget the moments the baby finally settles down to sleep (even if it’s just for a while), gosh! those are heavenly.
CANDID PHOTOGRAPHER. As a new mum, it’s baby in one hand and phone in another. You just have to capture those candid moments as they come and you have to be fast because they could be gone in a flash. So what do you become (if you aren’t one already), a photographer? Definitely yes!
BOOBS AND BABIES. If you are lucky to be an exclusive feeding mum like I am, then you should expect your milk factory and your baby’s feeding time to sync over time. It feels almost like clock-work. One minute, your boobs are at rest, the next minute, it’s full and then the baby starts demanding a meal. It’s one of the wonders of nature.
WORRIER. Some people call it maternal instincts. When you see a spot that wasn’t there the previous night, a rash, hair on the pillow, no poop for a day or a heavy reflux* (the list is endless), a new mum’s usual first instinct is to worry. Please feel free to do so, but do not make it get the best of you because in most cases, your baby is fine (even feeling better than you lol).
SMILES & LAUGHS. This is arguably the best part of it all. When that baby flashes a smile or laughs. It could be after a feed or during a diaper change. Capture those moments as best as you can and treasure them forever.
Above all these is the unconditional-I-will-do-anything-for-you kind of love you will feel for your baby/babies when they arrive.
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Love always, Nonso!